YOU'RE NO ONE'S REHAB

Some people may ask what true love is, well we all have our understanding of it but I for one believe that love is a feeling that prevails throughout time and is forever young when it's shared by two hearts that have become one. Love is a substance of the hearts united and calls for two individuals to commit to each other in an unwavering, unbreakable and unparalleled fondness and devotion for one another. 

Everyone usually wants the fairytale love for themselves, one we see in movies and animations. Love that doesn't weiver,love that's pure and magical. For many of the young hearts in campuses that's not usually the case.

 In the 1990s, most media reported that students mostly blamed the government for the deaths and murder of their colleagues.That was then. Fast forward 20 years later and while the players remain the same, the script has changed. Fingers are no longer pointed at police and government agents for the horror tales that haunt campuses. In a bizarre twist, students are now turning on each other and even killing each other in cold blood for what some may term non issues I term It; toxic relationships. This is a relationship that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. On a basic level, any relationship that makes you feel worse rather than better can become toxic over time. 

Seeing news headlines of love gone wrong and reported deaths of students in Kenyan campuses has become the norm of the day, it's already within us and it's eating up every student it can find. Even though most students in varsities are the cream of the society and have the required knowledge to make sound and just decisions, most of them lack emotional intelligence and are unable to identify and respect the emotions of others. 

It's not okay for someone to stab you in the lungs and ask why you're having trouble breathing, students need to know that it's okay to fall out of love and that it's okay to express their feelings for what they are. It's also okay to think of their safety and well-being for peace of mind. Many students fall victim of the spreading unhealthy and toxic relationships because they don't know what to look out for in their partners.Some of these sings of toxic relationships include Lack of suppot, toxic communication, easily getting jealous, controlling behaviours, resentment, dishonesty and disrespect. Many students go through this in their relationship in a daily basis but because you still believe in your partner and because you feel like he/she is going to change and get better you give yourself another reason to stay. Many students tend to cover up for their toxic partner in the name of love but within a few struggles that's when they start breaking. That's when the headlines read students deaths over toxic relationships.

You think you can change a guy and that he'll be different with you, that you'll finally be able to tame him ... And before you know it, you're alone in your house on a Saturday night, crying to Adele and Conor Maynard's songs, eating ice cream straight from the gallon, and wondering why in the world you fell for a toxic, narcissistic and controlling person.

Usually many students tend to stay in their unhealthy relationships because of financial statuses or sometimes because of peer pressure that at a certain age, one must be in a relationship. Love endures but students need to understand that love shouldn't ever be painful to bear, if their partners aren't ready to work on their faults and go through therapy then the best thing to do after seeing the red lights in a relationship is to walk out 

If you or someone you know is a student experiencing abuse, consider contacting PADV (Partnership Against Domestic Violence) to begin exploring services and legal remedies that colleges may not be able to provide. PADV offers counseling services, emergency shelter and a support group that focuses on college violence. Additionally, you can contact your school’s counseling center to discover resources the school has available to you as you work to end this damaging relationship. While this experience may feel scary and overwhelming, reaching out for help is the first step.